Mars and Venus

I’ve been told by more than a few people that my site title is itself actually a reference to a quite sexist book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Oops. That is ironically awkward. For any who noticed this, and raised an eyebrow, I’m claiming ignorance! Yes I had heard of the book before, but I did not realize that this was where the common equation of gender to Mars and Venus had become popular. Honestly, I thought that since the King and Queen of the  Greek Gods were named Mars and Venus respectively, it would make sense that they were equated with each gender.

Another instance in which I was ignorant, was what I thought the content of the book was about. I had assumed it was a humorous book about some of the differences between men and women. However, upon hearing about it, and subsequently reading parts of it at the suggestion of Sherrie Gavin, and then reading articles and even the Wikipedia article, the more disgusted I became with it. It really places women on a lower plane than men. It is obviously sexist and demeaning to women.

So just to clarify, I don’t in ANY way support this book, or intend to promote it. That being said, I’ve purchased this domain, so that’s the way it’s staying (the lesson has not been lost on me though). From here on out, if anyone is wondering, I simply wanted a more artful title than “The equality of men and women.” That domain was taken anyway. 

Also, here’s an article refuting much of what the book said. Enjoy!



Meet an LDS Feminist: Me

For the last little while, I have posted the thoughts of others, and my own comments have been made only to support their thoughts, or to at least give them validity. I haven’t really said it straight yet what I think about feminism. So I’m going to give it to you. I don’t apologize for any of it to anyone. If you disagree, good! Leave me a comment or a question, and I’d be happy to discuss it with you. Here it goes.

I wish feminism didn’t exist.

Yes, it’s true. I sincerely wish it didn’t exist. So now your question is probably, “What? But all of your posts either highlight feminists or support feminism.”

You’re right. I do highlight feminists, and as it happens I also agree with a lot of what they stand for. I would pretty confidently bet that most people in this church agree with them. So why do I wish it didn’t exist? Because I wish there was no need. The reason feminism exists at all is because somewhere along the line, the world decided that men were superior to women. I say the world decided, but the world didn’t decide, the men decided. And from a physical standpoint, the men were able to force that onto the women. After a time, it became accepted. Then it became tradition. Then it became culture. And now, we have feminism to counteract thousands of years of a false tradition. Do women hold the priesthood? No. At least not nominally, and not administratively. Are they generally of a smaller physique than men? Yes, genetically, they’re not made to grow the same way men are. These are the only two real differences between men and women. We don’t look the same, and we have different gender responsibilities with regards to the family. Yes, I firmly believe in the Proclamation to the World.

However, beyond those obvious differences, I can see no reason whatsoever why we shouldn’t be equal. Sadly, I know of a few men who still believe that their priesthood makes them better, more important, or more capable than their wives, or women in general. They think that their priesthood means that they can rule. It does not. Leading is not ruling. Christ told his Apostles, when they were vying for leadership, that a true leader is a servant. No priesthood holder can expect the Lord to honor his priesthood if he uses it as an entitlement to anything. The Priesthood entitles you serve. That is all. It does not entitle you to rule. Especially within the family.

I wish the Priesthood was stronger

I’ve heard a lot of complaints about the priesthood, and I’ve heard a lot praise for the priesthood. I say “The priesthood” but I mean “The men” or “The priesthood holders.” So let’s get one thing straight. The priesthood is not the same as the men of the church. It isn’t. So what I’m really saying is, I wish the men of the Church were stronger. Now, some might take that to mean that I wish the men had more control or something, but that’s not what I mean at all. I wish the men in the Church would realize their full potential. Brandishing the priesthood isn’t living to your full potential. Feeling superior isn’t living to your full potential. Forcing a woman (or anyone) to do something, especially because you have the priesthood is not living up to your full potential. These things weaken you. They negate the very priesthood you claim to use. If the men were stronger (and I include myself in that, I’m nowhere near perfect), there would not be a problem. There would be no need for the feminist movement. There would be equality. There would be peace. But Alas, we live in a fallen world. If the men were stronger, they would be strong enough to give women the respect that they are due, to give them the voice that they are due, and recognize the power that they already have.

And since we’re talking about priesthood, and power, and representation, now’s as good a time as any to tell you how I feel about women and the priesthood. I don’t think women will hold it any time soon. I do NOT mean to say that they shouldn’t, or that they can’t. I just think that they won’t. I don’t know why they don’t, but “because they have different responsibilities” doesn’t cut it for me. I know they have different responsibilities. But I also know that everything has not been revealed. So while I don’t think that women will hold the priesthood, I also think that they will hold something. Maybe a priestesshood. I have no idea what that could be, but I know that women are promised that they will become “Queens and Priestesses” in the temple. So why not a priestesshood?

Food for thought

“We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the kingdom of God.” (Articles of Faith, 1:9 Italics added)

It is easy to say, “it’s the doctrine you’re messing with” to a feminist, especially if she wants the priesthood. However, let us not be too hasty. We don’t have it all yet. Women don’t have the priesthood. There is no doctrine that I can find that says women never have, and never will hold the priesthood. It’s not doctrine. The only doctrine is that women don’t hold the priesthood. Why is that? Think about it. Research it. I promise you will never find any doctrine that says that women never have and never will hold the priesthood. You may find quotes. You may find allusions. But you won’t find any church-sanctioned doctrine supporting that thought. But the scriptures, and even modern church history is rife with women who could have, (or, if you care to do the research, actually and officially did) hold the priesthood. So before you go spouting off your “doctrine,” do some research, and then open your heart and your mind and honestly ask “why?” The question is worth while to study, to pray and to fast about.

Meet an LDS Feminist: Sherrie


NOTE: The views expressed in this feature are those of the interviewee and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions held by the author of The Equality of Mars and Venus. [Comments in brackets and italics are solely the opinions of the author.]


Sherrie was born in New York not far from the Sacred Grove. Her mother has been a member her whole life, and her father is a convert to the church. Sherrie found it difficult to fit in with other members in areas where the member concentration is high. After college, she traveled around, and eventually landed in Australia on an internship. It was here that she met her husband, Bruce, and decided to stay. Bruce is very supportive of Sherrie’s very active involvement in the LDS Feminist movement.

As a child, Sherrie was fascinated with Harriet Tubman. She admired the fact that Harriet Tubman saved people, men and women. She was inspired so much by this woman’s courage and involvement in literally saving thousands, that she wrote an essay, and entered it into a feminism essay contest when she was only 12. She won the contest, and discovered that she indeed had a passion for feminism. Solidifying her discovery, was the fact that her father refused to attend the awards ceremony, he not feeling comfortable attending a celebration of feminism.

Women and the Priesthood

[It should be noted, that “The Priesthood” as mentioned in previous posts, and in General Conference, is not equivalent to “The men of the Church.”] Sherrie is an active participant in the “Ordain Women” movement, which is a growing group of women and men who feel that women should be ordained to the priesthood. The reasoning behind their desires vary, but mostly they center around unequal representation in Church leadership, abuse of power by males, and unequal footing in the family. Sherrie says, “the men get to be in the ruling class at church, but the women are in the servant class.” [No one can deny that there are more leadership positions for men in the church than there are for women. Indeed, even the leadership positions women hold are subject to the leadership of men, even at the ward level. It’s even more obvious in the general offices of the church, where men make up the vast majority of the leadership. It is certainly worthy of our attention, and at least our questions.]

Sherrie remembers being interviewed to attend the temple when she was twelve years old, and the member of the bishopric asking and elaborating on a series of very personal questions regarding her sexuality. Most, if not all of the things he asked and told her about were things she had never even heard of, let alone things she had actually done. Technically, this “interview” was sexual abuse. Sherrie says, “a strange man should not be discussing sexual practices, positions or habits with a 12 year old girl. Yet this man felt it was his responsibility to do so.” [To be sure, such interviewing practices are strongly discouraged by the First Presidency, and certainly are not condoned by the church. The church’s stance is that if you have something to confess, then you may discuss it with your priesthood leader, but it is not his job to ask such probing questions without cause to anyone of any age, especially children, and especially young women. However, few times, and none that I have ever heard of, was a priesthood leader reprimanded, or disciplined as a result. That isn’t ok.]

Aside from her opinion that the inequality of the sexes within the church hurts it, Sherri is also of the opinion that women should hold the priesthood, “for practical reasons. We could do more temple work if women could act as witnesses in the baptistry and could perform ordinances. We can also balance out families in allowing women to bless their children and witness or perform the baptisms of their children.” [A good question to ask oneself is this: There is no doubt that the Lord is “hastening the work.” Why shouldn’t women be ordained? It would hasten the work. I don’t believe there is a definite answer to that question, because as per the 9th article of faith, “we believe that [the Lord] will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the kingdom of God.” So ask the hard questions. Do your research before you come to any conclusions. There is more than meets the eye. Don’t just dismiss these questions as blasphemous or unworthy. They deserve our attention.]

The Patriarchal Order

“Do you practice patriarchal structure in your own home? No, and I know very few who do because it doesn’t work, because it hurts the family. The church should not follow this structure as it is equally damaging.” We are all a family. Indeed, wards are sometimes referred to as “ward families” and in the church we refer to each other as “brother” and “sister,” because we are all children of our Heavenly Parents. Sherrie points out that within our atomic families, the patriarchal order (the belief that fathers and husbands are the law in the family, even to the wife and mother), does not work. It sows discord and hurts the family. Similarly, she says, if the church is indeed a family, the patriarchal order ought not to be practiced. Men and women ought to be equally represented in the leadership at all levels.

Sherrie’s opinions on the patriarchal order, especially within the family, are shared by many. Men do not, and should not, hold more power or authority than their wives. It is not hard to follow that doctrine up with the fact that the church itself has no similar guidelines to govern it’s own leadership. Men most definitely hold more power than women. That cannot be argued. Every female leader reports to a male leader, even the general relief society president. The question is why? Why is the church set up this way, if the family decidedly is not?

Blogger’s Plug

[Many will disagree with much of what has been said in this post. That is fine. If everyone agreed on everything, there would be no value in a discussion. However, if you feel a need to comment, please be respectful. If you have a problem being respectful, I refer you to my previous post, As I Have Loved You. I invite all who read this, to actually put some effort into their opinion. Yes, this goes against cultural norms. Yes, it goes against the status quo. Yes, there are some very difficult questions asked here. But shouldn’t we at least ask them, and try to honestly answer them using study, prayer and fasting? Don’t we owe it to ourselves to at least try to find an answer that’s based in gospel study, and not just, “Well that’s how it’s always been, so anyone who challenges it obviously doesn’t understand the doctrine.” That way of thinking is folly. This church is built upon the asking of questions.

Need I remind everyone that the reason we have this church today is because a 14-year-old boy was unsatisfied with the explanations available to him? Why is this any different? Study it. Pray about it. Take it to the Lord, and really ask with a sincere and open heart. I won’t tell you what answer you will get, because I’m still doing it. I’m studying, and I’m praying, and as yet haven’t come up with all the answers to all my questions. But those answers will come. And when they do, I’ll stick to them. But until I have it from the spirit, in no uncertain terms, I may not agree with everything, but my mind remains open to the possible answers. I invite you to do the same.]


As I Have Loved You

This subject has been touched on a couple times in my last two posts, but I feel like it hasn’t been touched on quite enough. Whether you identify with feminism, aren’t sure, or vigorously oppose it, this is for you.

As you might have guessed, I have had some interesting conversations with people since I started this blog. Sadly, most of them revolve around my having to defend the validity of many feminist views, whether I share them or not. While I do it, all I hear is how wrong it is, or how there isn’t even a problem, or all feminists need to re-evaluate their testimony of the Church, or just “follow the brethren” and keep their heads down. I haven’t been able to express myself well in these situations, because I get frustrated, and have to take the conversation elsewhere, but I’m go to lay it all out now.

First off, I want to refute the idea that feminists have a weak testimony, or are trying to put themselves above men. That idea is just wrong. Especially in the church. I challenge anyone to find an LDS feminist who thinks that they ought to be above men. I don’t deny that some do have a weak testimony, but their feminism is not the cause.

I know several feminists myself. They are all along the spectrum of feminism, from “things could be more equal” to “I want to hold the priesthood.” All of them have deep, burning testimonies of the Gospel. All of them have done their research, and their desires and complaints are well-founded, and valid. It doesn’t matter that you don’t agree. It doesn’t matter that you don’t understand why they’re doing what they’re doing. Your responsibility as a disciple of Jesus Christ is to love them, As He has loved you. It is not for you to judge them.

If you think them misguided, then you’re entitled to your opinion, but please tell me how telling them that they must not have a testimony is Christ-Like? I don’t care if you are a woman or a man, if you disagree with anything about LDS feminism, fine, but it is not your responsibility nor your right to condemn them, or to make assumptions about them. That doesn’t help anybody.

Our church is about inviting all to come unto Christ. Who would want to be part of church that says it invites all, but then acts like people who are outside the status quo ought to be shunned?

On the flip side, I feel like a lot of frustration that comes from not-feminists is that they hear feminist views and opinions stated as facts. Now, whether these things are facts or not, it often depends on your view of the situation. For some, the priesthood session of General Conference is institutional sexism. They can’t see how it could be anything else. Conversely, there are those who see it as the thing that the men need, and they don’t feel excluded at all. They don’t see how anyone could see it as exclusionary. They are entitled to their opinion. The point is, there shouldn’t be any judgement from either side. Aren’t we all trying for the same thing? How can we achieve those lofty goals if we’re angry with each other? Over our differing definitions of equality? My little brother on his mission recently said this in an email home:

Moroni 7 teaches us that we cannot have faith nor hope nor charity if we are not meek and lowly of heart. And if we dont have Charity, we dont have anything! That is so true and real. The Spirit I feel when I teach someone I truly love and have a desire to help is much different from my ability to teach someone who I am choosing to be annoyed with.

“1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.  3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

While his comments are about teaching people the Gospel of Jesus Christ, I think they can apply to this situation as well. If we don’t have charity for each other, we don’t have anything, and we fall short on those lofty goals of ours.

So basically, if we claim to follow Jesus Christ, then judging each other and making assumptions about each other shouldn’t even be an issue. It should be done with. It should be gone. It should be replaced with love and a desire to understand each other. Love and understanding will always be more powerful than judgement assumption.

Meet an LDS Feminist: Amber

NOTE: The views expressed in this feature are those of the interviewee and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions held by the author of The Equality of Mars and Venus. [Comments in brackets and italics are solely the opinions of the author.]

Let Women Pray

It is a sad thing when anyone punishes another for asking questions. Yet when questions go against cultural norms, or just the status quo, there are some people who will bend over backward to make sure you know that (according to them) what you’re doing is wrong. This is exactly what happened to my friend Amber when she organized the “Let Women Pray” petition, which was a campaign, urging members of the church to write PEACEFUL and RESPECTFUL letters requesting that they inquire of the Lord to see if there was any reason why a woman should not be able to pray in General Conference. According to her critics, Amber hated her husband and her child, did not have a testimony, and was even urged to leave the Church. For asking Church Leaders to pray and ask if women could pray in General Conference. Asking for change gets people up in arms. [Amber deserved none of that. She’s a strong woman with a deep love for her family, a deep testimony of the gospel, and a desire for equality. Many, including myself, had not even noticed that a woman had never prayed in general conference. I could see no reason why a woman shouldn’t pray in General Conference, and as per the April 2013 General Conference, neither did the General Authorities of the Church.] Amber would remind those that “spewed hate” at her, that “that’s exactly why I joined the LDS church to begin with; I love to challenge myself and continually grow. The beauty of the gospel is the room for personal revelation… our beginning and our foundation is upon Joseph Smith asking questions.”

Heavenly Mother

Amber is a convert to the church, and didn’t hear about Heavenly Mother until she was in a college religion class at BYU. At that point, she hadn’t yet had an unwelcome question. Her professor told the class that we aren’t supposed to talk about her and left it at that. Amber was partly in shock that there is indeed a Heavenly Mother, and then crushed when the professor refused to talk more about her. [It’s sad that a religious educator would not talk about Heavenly Mother, other than to acknowledge Her existence. However, there is no policy, no doctrine, no mandate by the church that says we aren’t supposed to talk about Her. That idea was first written by a seminary teacher named Melvin R. Brooks. It has not been repeated by any apostle or prophet in the latter days. So, let’s keep on asking questions about Heavenly Mother! There’s more information out there than we might think.]

How She Became a Feminist

Amber has been through a lot. She was molested when she was seven, and had to deal with the psychological and social problems that came with it, even into high school and marriage. When she tried to talk about it, those who heard her made her believe it was her fault. She was even kicked out of her newspaper class in high school because she wrote an (very tactful) article about it, which was supposed to inspire hope in others in a similar situation. The article can be found here.

Later, when she was working on a research project about prejudices around video games and online behavior, she was given a (all male) team of researchers to help her with the project. These men, though well-meaning, attempted to take over the project because they “thought they knew more about both research and video games than [her].” When they had meetings, she would come with an agenda, and each would undermine everything she was trying to do. This is an example of “Unintentional sexism” as Amber puts it. [As a side note, Amber holds no grudges or offense toward these men. However, the problem with unintentional sexism is that it’s unintentional. We don’t even think about what we’re saying or doing sometimes. If you start paying attention to those little things that people say, you’ll start to notice that it happens more than we would like to admit. Many have their feelings hurt or feel ostracized because of these unintentional digs at them, whether they are meant to be or not. Pay attention to what you say, and how you say it. It’s not hard to change what you say, or to choose not to say something that could be sexist.]

The Definition of Feminism

Amber tells of her Women’s Studies professor:

“My women’s studies professor used to joke that feminism has become the “other F-word”, especially among Mormons. The truth is that anyone who thinks that women and men are equal is a feminist. It’s not the crazy, bra burning feminism that everyone thinks about from the 70s.. Third-wave feminism (or modern-day feminism) is about preventing rape, and supporting working women, and even supporting the rights of women to mother their children the way they choose. I have yet to meet anyone who wasn’t a feminist – just lots of people who didn’t know it yet.”

[In one of my first posts on this blog (almost a year ago), I cited a conversation that I had with my sister who also identifies herself as a feminist. She asked questions like “Do you think that women doing the same jobs as men should receive equal pay?” “Do you believe that no gender is superior to the other?” “Do you think that women are born with the same capacity for intellect that men are?” “Do you think that women and men in a marriage relationship are equal partners? I answered “Yes” to all of these questions. At the end, my sister told me that I was a feminist. You see, feminism isn’t about being angry. It isn’t about women who hate men. It’s about treating women with the same respect we treat men with. It’s about making sure that women don’t get put down simply for being a woman. So, If you agree with all that, then you’re a feminist. You just didn’t know it yet. You’re welcome.]

When asked what changes she hopes to see in the church, Amber responded simply that, “I hope we can learn as a culture to be more accepting. To not judge a woman if she only has one child, or if she wears pants to church, or if she works outside the home… In a lot of ways, I see mormon feminism as a real missionary effort to bring back those who we have inadvertently pushed away.”


Meet an LDS Feminist: Rochelle

NOTE: The views expressed in this feature are those of the interviewee and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions held by the author of The Equality of Mars and Venus. [Comments in brackets and italics are solely the opinions of the author.]

When she was young, Rochelle started having many questions about equality. She witnessed gender-based injustice at school, at church, and in life. Growing up, she felt less and less safe as she witnessed various forms of abuse, assault and harassment from her male peers to her female peers, and on occasion was on the receiving end. Some of what she saw was sexual abuse, some verbal, some emotional, but all of it seemed to stem from an unequal balance of control and power. Eventually, all of this led to a crisis of faith which took over a decade to heal.

Through all of this, Rochelle didn’t particularly identify herself as a feminist, but certainly shared many of the questions feminists have. She worried that the world, and even the church which she loved, seemed to regard her as a second-rate citizen.

After she married, her husband took a sociology of gender class, which caught her attention and started a long term, meaningful discussion between them.  She read a book called Reviving Ophelia that was both enlightening and disturbing. This prompted more research on Rochelle’s part, and created even more questions for her as she began to identify more and more with feminism.  She began to search out more information about feminism, particularly anything that was written by LDS women.  She wanted to understand what her role was, and how her gender affected her standing before God.

Rochelle was unhappy with what she found for a long time, feeling that so-called LDS-based feminism resources only sought to undermine her faith, and rarely gave meaningful answers to her questions.  Eventually a trusted friend suggested a book to her, which was co-written by Valerie Hudson Cassler and Alma Don Sorensen, both of whom were professors at BYU. The book, Women in Eternity, Women of Zion, finally answered some questions for Rochelle, and provided comfort for her. She attributes much of what she has subsequently found to be the result of her choosing to believe that she was not a second-rate citizen, and her belief that God loved her just as much as He loved any of his sons. Once she firmly believed this, she began to find more and more evidence to support it. She cited a quote from James E. Talmage, which states that “Christ is the greatest champion of women, and womanhood,” as a support for this belief as well as 2 Nephi 26:33: “he inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness; and he denieth none that come unto him, black and white, bond and free, male and female”.  She has since discovered many more sources that have supported her in her faith and beliefs about feminism and womanhood, and these include books, blogs and articles. A handful of those are Ruby Slippers, Women in The Scriptures, Empowering LDS Women, The Gift of Giving Life, Beauty Redefined, and Segullah.

Rochelle’s views on Feminism have fluctuated somewhat, but her biggest concerns related to LDS Feminism right now are mainly cultural.  She believes that we do not have all the answers yet, but that true equality will one day exist only within the context of the restored gospel.  She says that for now, we live in a fallen world full of imperfect people, which does reflect itself on aspects of how the Church is run- i.e. traditional practices that are not based on doctrine.

[Many share Rochelle’s concerns. The inequality of funds allocated for young men’s/scouts and young women’s/ achievement days programs, and the demeaning comments or attitudes from men is a problem.This happens too much. Men, this is something that should change. No gender is better than the other. Women deserve our respect, and it’s our responsibility to give it to them.]

The Priesthood is not defined as being the men of the church. Beyond that, Rochelle also believes that the priesthood is also not comparable to motherhood. The only thing comparable to motherhood is fatherhood. She views the priesthood as an apprenticeship that men have to Heavenly Father, as they learn how to be fathers, ultimately to become Heavenly Fathers themselves. She believes that there will be (and perhaps to a certain extent already is) a “Priestesshood” that women will hold, not identical to the priesthood that men hold, but no less powerful and important.

Many of Rochelles opinions stem from her belief in Heavenly Mother. Her thoughts on gender roles, priesthood, and parenthood stem directly from her belief in the church-held doctrine that we have both a Heavenly Father and a Heavenly Mother. Basic Church doctrine states that there is in fact a Heavenly Mother, in accordance with the Plan of Salvation and affirmed by the ordinances given in the temple.

We are not sure why Heavenly Mother is not more visible to us, but Rochelle leans toward a belief that at one point Heavenly Mother was more visible, but that a misguided people warped a loving respect and love for Her into an immoral, idol-worshipping sect that blasphemed against Her and Heavenly Father, necessitating a very clear separation of our worship from Her. We don’t know why She has not been re-introduced, but one thing must be true: She is just as involved in our lives as Heavenly Father is. How could She not be? If She is there, and if we believe that “as man is, God once was, and as God is, man  can become” then we believe than Heavenly Mother was once an earthly mother, like the mothers we have here. As a mother herself, Rochelle wonders if Heavenly Mother’s joy would be full without involvement in our lives (even if She is not totally visible)? Logically, it doesn’t make sense that She be uninvolved.

Rochelle hopes that in the future, there can be more light shed on Heavenly Mother, as well as Eve and other matriarchs. More manuals coming out that are less man-centric would also be helpful. There seems to be a lack of strong role models for women and mothers, or rather there are not enough of them that are involved in, or taught about in the Church’s curriculums.

Eventually, Rochelle believes that all things will be made known, and Gender and equality will be perfectly understood. Until that day, we as members of the Church have a responsibility to treat each other with respect, and to work in unity toward our eternal goals. [There is no room for tearing each other down over disagreements. We all have the same goals. No matter what our opinions, judging each other and condemning each other damns both parties. Let’s work together to bring about the changes that need to happen in our culture, and our thinking.]

A New Direction

I have posted only a few posts on this blog, and I firmly believe the things that I talked about. However, as it turns out, I don’t know a ton more than what I posted about. So I’m going to take the blog in a new direction. I will be interviewing many LDS Feminists and will post a feature about them. They will be at varying parts of the spectrum of feminism. I will occasionally post commentary or just things that I’m thinking about. I will not necessarily agree with everything in the features stories. However, the point of this blog to facilitate unity and understanding from both sides and along the whole spectrum.

This is not a hate blog. This blog will not tell one side or the other that they are wrong. I do not claim to have all the answers. I want to encourage discussion, and I am a fan of hard questions. They need to be asked and prayed about. Feel free to comment with your ideas, questions, and inspiration.

Please do not post any hate comments. We’re all striving for the same thing, and we don’t need to be at each other’s necks. The first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord your God, and the second is like unto it, love your neighbor as yourself. So please, keep things civil. No name-calling, questioning people’s intelligence or surmising about someone’s standing with the church.

Thank you for reading and thank you for being respectful of opinions and feelings!